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January 2016


“The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say…” I love you,’’ in the end. And loving somebody isn’t about saying it every day, its showing it every day in every way…..’’

broken heart


With my cup refilled and Thanking God its Friday, I come ready for Part two of The Love Story….

FACT: I was born in the city so I Can’t say am deeply rooted into culture. My father (rest his soul) always said…’’we don’t choose where we are born, and that, we are born without any state of mind, and that the society fills the ways of mankind to us.’’

Penina had succumbed to family pressure. …this is where problems began and drifted us apart.

One evening I called her from work to notify her I will be arriving in 20 minutes time so that she will be ready to open the gate in time. On arriving I called her several times without any response, but she opened after a while…,

Of course things went downhill 

The next day she was off duty so she was to see her sister. The plan was that we to go to town together so as she goes to see her sis, I branch off to work. I decided to go alone and leave her behind; this brought another serious dent on our already strained relationship. She got so mad that she decided to go sleep at her sister’s place for 2 days.

“Anyone can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is never easy…..”

Later we smoothed things over and she came back. Just under 2 days again quarrels began, we were in the same house but not talking to each other. Our arguments were conveyed through texting each other. My temper rose to a point I told Penina to go away and never come back. She granted me my wish. I later came to regret what I did and deeply apologized for that heinous mistake. Penina was deeply wounded by that incident that she decided never again to rekindle our relationship.


A happy man marries the girl he loves, but the happier man loves the girl he marries… the latter is true given the circumstance that our relationship was dying as a result of family pressure, it was a ticking bomb of which i accelerated the timer. I created the fracas so as to set Penina free from the tyranny of family. When you love somebody this much, sacrifice for freedom is necessary, so that she can follow the family’s will and marry the person of their liking. However for true friendship she could have found in her heart to forgive her dearest love. Friendship is not a gift but it is through hard work that bonds are built. Friendship endures a lot to build unbreakable bonds. Someday or rather in the next life when am of the same tribe i will marry my dearest Penina.

As I sign off on this story and with my box of Kleenex, It saddens me that Tribal issues still manage to take a great toll amongst us. What are you going to do as an individual……??????

In Love and Light,



There is an African proverb that says,
A happy man marries the girl he loves, but the happier man loves the girl he marries!”

I will get back to this later…

Today I want to post something different…. A Love story!!

Love is here to stay. So as am typing and sipping my coffee let’s take this journey with these two people and see how it unfolds…..

love.jpg“My name is Alphonse and my girlfriend’s name is Penina, we have been together for 15 months. When fate grants you an opportunity like this you take it with one bended knee and hands stretched to show appreciation. You embrace it COMPLETELY!
I and Penina work under the same company but different departments. Penina has good plans which include helping out her family, getting a college degree and getting a well-paying job. My desires are to quit my job and start a mechanical workshop to utilize my God given talents in custom designs.
Our love is very strong, we do all the crazy things new lovers do; we go to an extent of organizing the same shift so as to maximize our time together.
At our workplace they say our love is the best ever.
Penina is well known to my family and they find her amazing and encourage us to maintain the spirit. On her family’s side however it’s challenging to get acquainted to them because of the distance, time and their availability, but during my annual leave was planning to make it happen.
During the festive season i.e. this past December, Penina decided to travel upcountry to celebrate with her family and attend her sister’s wedding which was scheduled for early January.
Along this time I realized that Penina’s communication was dwindling, when I text her she wasn’t replying, when I called the vibrancy in her voice was way down.
Penina finally returns back after the 3rd day after the sister’s wedding. I manage to prepare a decent meal despite my recent back injury and give her the warmest welcome home.
She’s my love.
After a day she accompanies me to see my bike being serviced. While waiting we decide to talk about our future and the resolution for the year ahead. I notice her hesitant while making future arrangements to see her folks, when I query her she bluntly opens up and tells me the huddle she facing from her family and relatives; that they are against our relationship. Only because am from a different tribe…..”

As you ponder on That lemmi refill my cup of coffee and let you in on the rest of the story….

A New Leaf….


Does the thought of an empty page scare you? Or of a blank screen staring back at you waiting for you to feed info into it? A new chapter in life? Turning over a new leaf….?

        “for one to turn over a new Leaf one must separate from the Branches of Habit…”

Am sure this is a dilemma for anyone. So when we delve into it…whatever it may be…we find that it’s never as scary as it may seem.

When it comes to writing, the blank page turns into pages of thoughts or ideas. To me it’s a release of whatever it is am going through. It’s always so refreshing and I leave the world and it’s troubles and get lost in that world.
Trust me, when you visit a shrink and they tell you to get a journal and pen down your feelings please do it… PLEASE DO IT.

I can never stress this enough times.!!!!

Draw if you have to but just fill that empty page.

That release will do so much good you will never believe.
So don’t be afraid to turn the page, start a new chapter, start a fresh story… And try writing it.

Then thank Me later.

There’s Always that Song…

January has it’s dry moments especially when it comes to finances. Well it’s nothing to keep beating ourselves up for. December holidays and all that spending does that to January.
So Yesterday, I welcomed the day as it presented itself in the morning: bright and warm. I took a short trip to see a client and it felt nice just to change the environment. Something I strongly believe in. Going somewhere different is very therapeutic.
But one of my highlights among many was in the evening, when I was streaming music by Michael Bublé and one song always gets to me and it comes in so timely. It’s called..

Close your eyes:

Let me tell you all the reasons why
I Think you’re one of a kind.
Here’s to you
The one that always pulls us through
Always do what you gotta do
You’re one of a kind
Thank God you’re mine.
You’re an angel dressed in armor
You’re the fair in every fight
You’re my life and my safe harbor
Where the sun sets every night
And if my love is blind
I don’t want to see the light.
It’s your beauty that betrays you
Your smile gives you away.
Cause you’re made of strength and mercy
And my soul is yours to save
I know this much is true
When my world was dark and blue
I know the only one who rescued me was you
Close your eyes
Let me tell you all the reasons why
You’re never gonna to have to cry
Because you’re one of a kind
Yeah, here’s to you
The one that always pulls us through
You always do what you gotta do baby
Because you’re one of a kind.
When your love pours down on me
I know I’m finally free
So I tell you gratefully
Every single beat in my heart is yours to keep……….

It’s one of those songs that has a wow effect on you.

And as it keeps playing I know that it will keep someone hopeful. Well, I hope it does..

Quotable Quotes

You can’t unring a bell but you can be a bit more careful about when you chose to ring it in the future. And how. And where. And with whom. The lesson isn’t “trust no one”. That is never the lesson. The lesson is “Trust yourself more. Be quiet. Be still. Roar only when necessary.” and my God, if you don’t feel safe where you are then move.
  And Keep moving. And keep moving

Journey On….

There is Always an Endless demand on our time. There’s always something to do. If you are not physically doing something then the mind is busy racing with thoughts and ideas. 
Life can be indeed messy…. Work can get messy…Relationships get messy…

We should accept all these mess, But then do something about it….if it’s to meet friends, do it. If it’s to go for an adventure,do it. If you fall in love, pursue your love interest. 

So long as you have blood flowing in your body, never let life just pass you by. Just do something about it. 
You can only TRULLY appreciate life if you decide to live A little more than what you are now. 
The drastic dips that life throws will always be there. That stagnant feeling that life ain’t moving will present itself. But so long as you accept that it’s part of the journey then that’s the only time you can start to fully love the journey that is your life. 
In love and Light



Lessons from Mr. SQUIRREL…

A Squirrel has it’s Problems…

-Occasional food shortages,

-less than desirable weather,

-hostile & even violent neighbors…..

Through it all, though, the Squirrels’ Countenance remains steady. It’s eyes are Bright and Wide. It’s Vigor gets restored daily and it moves on, no matter what the CIRCUMSTANCES!

There are times in life where you just have to be like a Squirrel…

It’s normal to feel Claustrophobic, like the world is closing in on you. Its also important to remember that its just a curve ball  its not permanent…SQUIRREL

So like the Squirrel you have to know survival. Fluff your feathers and learn how to move past the curve balls that life throws!


Taking Care of others…


I found the inspiration I wanted to put up this post. – 



I realized that -(scratch that)- I am and have always been a very sensitive and caring person. Those who know me can confirm… .

I have spent a good amount of time and of my life taking care of others. And I have and will always do so with every fibre in my being. 

When you naturally are born to take care of others you will find yourself giving it your all. You at an early age have to be mature, independent, and not just independent, be highly so, give more hugs all the time, because you also need hugs in return, they are so reassuring. 

Before I continue….

…… to why we have to be tough on the outside, am reminded of how soft on the inside it feels. I found myself at a melting point yesternight hence Why I mentioned my sensitiveness earlier on. That overwhelming feeling you feel when you love people so much you would do anything for them…. You feel me right?!

I continue…

…..So yeeeeesss?! ……….There is much about taking care of others that is rewarding. I mean genuinely. Not under obligation. 

I will support the ones I take care of because i want them to be the best they could be. To encourage. To hug. To smile. To be tough on them. To protect. To wipe their tears. To know them well. To be romantic ( in context to a boyfriend). To LOVE. To Guide. To Walk through life together. To be there. Always….

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