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Reach Out Please…

As I bite into this sumptuous buttermilk biscuit I feel like I truly deserve to indulge some. I should also look for some ice cream with caramel or add a chocolate fudge cake. And I’m also craving a double latte. It’s one of those days. Where you feel things you don’t understand. 😀😀😀. 

Sugar rush aside…

I also mean to pour out my heart or maybe rant a bit…just a little bit😁😁

I might sound contradictory but understand That I am feeling things😜😜
I had a very long convo with my mother just the other day and we talked about so many things and about just how many people are in constant competition and comparison issues. That people can’t just be happy for other people. People gotta score. 

Allow me to tell a story: there’s a lady who was having it rough at her home. Typical relationshipp stress, work stress, parenting overload, emotions baggage etc. While she had her friends and siblings all in close proximity, most of them were so consumed in living that none was reaching out to each other and especially this specific sister. When she realized that any attempt to talk to a friend or sister or brother was slim to none she built walls so high, so much so that even when someone eventually decided to care, she decided to be ‘busy!’ She was in constant pain. Emotionally ….but now it was also physical. Disease was and had manifested in her body. ….And she was all ‘alone’. 

Before I continue: we all need that pat on the shoulder. Don’t be fooled if you meet me and I tell you that I don’t. 

Anyway,

One day all hell broke loose and she started vomiting blood. A lot of blood. One minute it’s the ER. The next it’s transfusion. The next kidneys are failing…..The next it’s ICU…..then tests revel waved raptured ulcers. Damn!!!!
The next…..she was gone!!!! At 43!!!

Two kids left behind. And a ‘husband!

“If you want the people you love to really feel loved, it’s essential to risk the awkwardness of asking them what their needs are!”

I can’t quite relate to her story but so many times it’s what most people go through. Stress and holding stuff in has made me have bed rest for days. That’s when I realized just how opening up can be therapeutic. Whoa!!!!

To me I’m a victim of bad communication. I’ve suffered. And it still surfaces. People are people. And life is a cycle. And while it’s very important to reach out. It’s also important to be sought after. Loose the ego. The pride. The selfish interest. The competition. Always rise above these. 

We are brought together by common values and interests. And so when you have people in your life it’s good to know what they’re all about. Just Incase something seems amiss, then you can reach out. 

It breaks my heart a lot when you try so much to reach out and the efforts go unnoticed. Life can be vicious..so just appreciate and reciprocate. 

But I’ve also learnt that it’s good to choose people who choose you. You go where you’re wanted not tolerated. As you go on your everyday life, reach out to someone. You never know. You might just be that hero who saves their life. 

I don’t think the sugar has helped much to my feelings, but just sharing has opened me up. And I’m feeling much better. 

Don’t let those people you say you love feel lonely. Disturb them😜

Reach out and help others. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. Be a vessel, be the change, be the difference, or be the inspiration. Shine your light as an example. The world needs more of that. 

Germany Kent. 

  

Focus…

It’s true of many things in life, that for them to be solid then they must have a very firm foundation. I know this sounds so clichè but it’s something that needs constant emphasis in life. All aspects of life need time to build. Alongside it, there must be patience, trust, hope and faith. Raising kids. Relationships. Jobs. Fitness. Businesses. Etc

In the course of the journey that is life, we always have dreams and aspirations but what we fail at is setting our priorities right. We fail because we loose focus at some point. The journey might be so promising and you love the steps but something happens and the focus is gone. Focus is the basis of many solid foundations…for you to enjoy safety that comes with it.  
We are often distracted. We are faced with stupid temptations and greed and instant gratification that out initial focus is lost. 

It’s Wednesday morning and I’m listening to Elevation worship. And it’s the best way to start a day. Sets a Positive focus😄😜… And I’ve had my morning coffee and my workout so I’m pretty upbeat. The weather has been a mix of suuuuuny, chilly and cloudy the past few days. I can’t say much about the speed of the week…it dragged some, it sprinted some and stood still in some days.  
Talking about focus, my mind is still fixated about somewhere nice and coastal. I think as a therapist you need to take a week off after every two months. 

They say that when you feel that life is overwhelming, you should at every moment you get, do something that will shift your energy. Exercise. Call a friend. Have a cuppa. Eat chocolate. Hike. 
Life sprints. Life drags. Life halts. But we must keep the ultimate individual focus. It depends on where you wanna place yourself. Build a solid foundation on things that will always light your path and lift you up. Don’t give up just when you’re about to sky-rocket. Take a big sip in life. Believe. Be bold. Focus. 
From my own misfortune and failures I’ve learnt to wear them and learn from them. 

It’s Go! Go! Go!
I learnt that forward is the way to go at all times. Regardless of what I face….. I Focus. 
I won’t run away from my problems…..anymore😂 I’ll face the issues and fix them. What I can I’ll do. Where I need help I will ask. 
I won’t be ashamed of my past failures. One step up is good enough. 
I won’t procrastinate. There are two choices in life: to accept situations as they are or to take responsibility of changing them. 
I won’t make excuses when it comes to things that matter. It’s simple. Decide what you want and go for it. Don’t sit empty doing nothing about your situations. If you don’t do anything then it means it’s not that important. Face the facts and realities of life!
People will always have opinions and mostly they’re negative. Learn to sort through. You know what’s best. 
Be grateful. Appreciate what you have and try to make it excellent. 

“We cannot become what we want by becoming what we are!” Max Depree



And so the clients are about to stream in. I am happy at  this moment. Just enjoying the fullness of this day. I have every reason to be upbeat. I am Elevated. I am FOCUSED. 

“Starve your distractions. Feed your focus!”

  

Generosity Pays…

Morning Coffee Recipe:

Brew some coffee

Add some ginger 

Add some cinnamon 

Pour the above in your favorite mug

Sweeten with some honey

Let that aroma fill you up

Now sip slooooooooooowly….

Feel how that first sip fills your soul and elevates your mood…

Enjoy and better yet, make two mugs😜!
Everyday we are generously given twenty four hours to enjoy each moment and to be grateful for being here. How we get to start and live through each day is entirely up to us. 
As I sip on my awesome coffee, I can’t help but smile. It’s a cold day. It’s been generally cold for This month of August. So keeping warm is necessary. These are simple life’s pleasures.. So take time and feel each moment for what it is. 
Oh My!

Life has been sprinting…Literally!!!!

So much to do. So little time. But besides being on the grind, I am always grateful for being here and making a difference. 

There are so many situations that happen that make me appreciate the art of giving and being cheerful about it. This I am going to teach all my children( however many I will be blessed with)

When you give, you find yourself always happy. Well, unless you find those people along the path of life that make you turn into someone you’re not by taking advantage of your kindness over and over. 
It’s such a quiet morning and this is on purpose. I just wanted silence to blog this😜. There are those mornings that you just want comfortable silence around you. Just so you can reflect. 
So…about giving…(before I digress)..

The more good you do for the world, the better life goes. Giving has to come from the heart. You have to Actually care to give. 

Don’t wait to gain something. It’s a man eat man society as it is and people are looking for instant gratification. What’s in it for them is what they chase. This in turn has made relationships of all sorts loose the true meaning. 
There is magic in giving. True giving makes many things just get better and better. You can never lack if you’re a true giver. And if you’re unhappy as a giver then you’re not in alignment with who you are as a person and it’s not because of what anyone else is doing. 

Remember: what people do is because of them, NOT YOU!!

Jim Rohn: Nothing teaches character better than Generosity. 


Practicing generosity trains you to understand that you already have enough. I’m usually not one to ask for what I want or need (it happens when you go and grow in hardship) but it feels good to help others. But I realize that I’m depriving other people the joy that comes from helping others…so I’ll learn to ask🙊!
Sometimes I struggle in so many ways and things ( I’m still a work in progress..you know😊) and so when a kind gesture is thrown my way it can feel uncomfortable at times. I was reminded the other day that I don’t have to match other people’s generosity. It should come from a place of love. We as human beings like to complicate issues. 

Giving has a ripple effect….most people forget this fact. 
You welcome lots of blessings. The more you give the more you find joy in it. Do all the good you can by all means you can, in all ways you can, in all places you can, in all times you can, to all people you can, as long as ever you can. 
You’re going to find people who’re going to just take and take advantage of your generosity and it can make your energy wane. There are these people in life and there is nothing we can do about them. They enjoy being mean. Don’t let that turn you into them. Resist!
So give from a place of love and enjoy it!!!
  
 

You Matter…

“Treat people like mirrors & watch how you reflect in their eyes…!”
A sweet lady I know just sent me this text as I was getting myself ready to scratch this writing itch that has persisted. I journal everyday alright, but that’s different…
This is to tell you that God is Timely, Never doubt that people! I needed that text today…
Monday was a drag! To say the least. But I survived it. That’s why I wanted this therapy. Writing is my Escape. 
Today holds a better promise plus I’m feeling amazing. I am oozing positivity. So let’s indulge in it!
Instead of focusing on making ends meet, which is okay. Let’s live. Now! 
Here is how I am doing it: 
1: Pauline Don’t rush

I am focused on not trying to tackle everything at once. One thing at a time. One emotion at a time. One moment at a time. One day at a time. To Breathe!
2: Put off/ brush off Negativity 

I am an ambassador of this one. Ha! ha! Someone made me so mad the other day, I was shaking with fury. Literally shaking…Lord have Mercy! I decided consciously to move away from that moment, from that environment and literally sort some air, to breathe…this helped a lot. And while I’m yet to attend to that party..one that I have to sort…I choose to not dwell on it. Quiet time is mandatory to sort through your emotions. Whether they’re raging or not. 
3: Get emotions out

At times life takes you to breaking points. You wanna scream, cry, beat your chest, call out profanities.. It helps. 

Sort through the emotions I say. Handle the emotions nonetheless. Don’t shy away. 

Get in lots of positive vibes. The negative won’t have room. 
4: My Value… My Worth

How much are you worth? Ha! Ha!

Rate yourself as high as you can. I am and I try to be authentic( it’s a lifelong journey), nourish yourself, feed your soul with all the good stuff, trust your journey, be fab. You matter.
5: Just one Me: 

I am becoming the best version of who I am meant to be. Mentally. Emotionally. Physically. But I want more money( 💯✔️😹😹). I am more wholistic in my approach to life. I cherish what I have in the present moment. I am lucky. I realized that my enjoyment of something doubles if I realize just how lucky I am to have it. So cheers to Life. Cheers Pauline. 
6: The Good

Ha!

When you get somethings right, you enjoy so many aspects of life….God. Love. Motherhood. Family. Work. The positive power of Friendships. Food. Etc
I still need more of Sand in my feet and wine in my hands. Vacation. Vacation. 
7: Goals

My goal today is to take yesterday to another level and tomorrow to soar high. But to ultimately sparkle today….go Higher, be better, be more positive, have lots of fun!
8: Quality/ Quantity

The Quality of moments lived is awesome when you maximize on them. No matter how much time you’ve got. Be meaningful. Connect with your moment. 
And so I am smiling because I am feeling good. My itch is scratched. My coffee needs a refill, but I am content. My heart is feeling settled. It’s beating for it’s purpose. I am alive in this moment. I am thankful. 
Ps: You are powerful, prove it to yourself. 😊

  

Through the Motions…

As others are soaking in the sun and enjoying their summer season, I was looking for sunshine and found it in a double caramel macchiato and carrot cake…the weather has been chilly lately. I really don’t mind it though…the cold weather that is….so I checked into a Cafè for some much needed coffee fix and just to chill and gaze at people and read and just be…

The past few months have been crazy, too much to be done,..going through the motions, the highs, the lows…all these not new to anyone really… But, as usual I’ve come to learn so much. You just have to learn. There is no other way. Life is that way. Not sometimes…. But all the TIME!!


I’ve come to find fulfillment in simple things. That being a minimalist is so much better. That giving is far much better than receiving. That actions will always speak louder than words….That words are only words unless acted upon…

That you give energy to what impacts you positively..

That moving on with life is okay. You don’t need to be stuck up!

That people aren’t what they seem to be and that’s also okay!

That there’s no need to hold on to what you can’t control!

That you can manage your anger when life upsets you…just Whooooosa😜!!

That planning ahead pays up big time!

That dreams do come true!


For me it’s an enlightment as I grow older. Day by day, moment by moment, there’s always a reminder that life is precious. We’re here only once. 


Be thankful for life. For peace of mind. Provision. Shelter. Clean water. Clothing. Food. Families. Friends. Laughter. And the list in endless..


And if things are so hard you just can’t stand them…just kneel….PRAY!!


As I sip on my mug of sunshine and eat my cake…I am just thankful for this moment!!!

  

Dear Diary (Part Two)..

I just had to pop in an old bakery in the Central Business District and buy the shortbread cookies. I just had to…..oh dear!! My sweet tooth!!
I had been Nursing Tonsillitis the past couple of days. Yikes!!! So I guess I needed the reward…😎!! Yaaaas😜!
As I munch on my cookies…I do my part two of dear Diaries😎😎….
4/01/2017: Stay Close to anything that makes you Glad that you’re Alive…aha!!! That’s just a fact right??
10/01/2017: Much of life involves moral absolutes and that Truth is Truth. Oh Yeah.

Mistakes are Minimized when you acknowledge them and take appropriate action. And that without Hope there is no ACTION😎!!
11/01/2017: I repeat- Everything of Value has a Foundation. It may start out weak but along the way you realize that you have to have a strong foundation.
12/01/2017: Living is Important. Everyday is a Gift. The simpler we make our lives, the more the abundance. DO NOT SETTLE!!
The smallest intentional action (positive) step can make a lot of difference.
13/01/2017: What you give to the world will be returned to you…. Maybe not all at once or in the way you expect it….but if you give your very best, the very best will come back to you.
Destiny is made known silently.”~Agnes De Mille
Be ready to make some drastic changes If you seek to live with no regrets. Live in the Now!!!

These cookies could have been best enjoyed with a Mocha but I couldn’t wait.

Crunch. Munch. Crunchy. Crunchilicious😃!!

You’re meant to Enjoy life. Not Endure it. Enjoy today. 

Let’s keep writing😊!!!

Self Care is Not Selfish…

Lucile Ball puts it so nicely, “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world!”

I couldn’t agree more. Life is busy. Many of us forget to self care because we are too busy….or rather, ‘too busy’…or ‘we don’t have time’….

BUT….we can create it as we make our other plans….as you schedule in other things in your busy days…don’t forget to include you!

A nice cup of coffee.or tea…with a good book or cake…. :-p

A massage…

A short trip…

A gym session…..

Whatever you love to do……DO IT!

We are often told to fall in love with taking care of ourselves ..MIND, BODY & SOUL!

This spiritual journey has nothing to do about being nice….being nice comes in when you are REAL. AUTHENTIC. HAVING/SETTING BOUNDARIES. HONORING YOUR SPACE FIRST….Then being nice comes in naturally….it Flows not motivated by fear but by Love….Love of self…. It all starts form you…. easy to say but very doable…..just fix it in your days/day….write it down and plaster it on your walls if you have to….lol

So find something that works for you and turn it into YOUR TIME!!

Here are some quotes to help you be authentic and to remind you that you also matter:-

 

Dear Diary (Part One)..

It’s always good to write down stuff as it’s a form of therapy. So I went ahead and looked up some of my entries of last year. Writing is indeed awesome. Try it. Thank me later.
Simple things in Life with Immense positive effects…


20/06/2016:
“Faced with awkward moments can stir you up in the wrong way…it can linger if you allow it…”

I wonder what was happening. But it was a cold day. Evidently, I did not let it freeze me or my thoughts. I warmed it up….warm Thoughts, a book and a Mocha…oh Yum!!!


23/06/2016
: I know that if I try to take on much, I can find a way to make excuses…so I make my daily goals Tiny..

Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the Bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it…
What a day that was huh!!?


25/06/2016:
Keep Learning and expanding. Life is a continuous learning experience. Take time to embrace the Surroundings. Be Thankful for what you have!!

Basically I was reminding myself of the simplicity of life (if we make it simple that is) and just being Thankful for life.

23/10/2016: Wow, I must have been writing  elsewhere. Lol  This Was quite a break!!

I quoted C. S. Lewis, “Friendship is necessary, Like Philosophy…like Art…it has no survival Value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival…..I hear you Lewis!!!

25/10/2016: Practice the art of being all there: give your time, touch, pat on the shoulder…be all there: give! give! give! Make effort!!!!

Uh huh…this was a heart to heart with myself. But basically, in the day to day living and interactions with people who matter you have to be all there!!


26/10/2016
: Hebrews 13:5 “Never will I leave you, Never will I forsake You!”

How often do you write? Does it work for you?
It should!!! Really❗️

Lemmi just add a quote, “everything of Value has a Foundation!”

Music Heals….

…….”🎶…I hear Jerusalem bells a-ringing

Roman cavalry choirs are singing

Be my mirror, my sword and shield

My missionaries in a foreign field

For some reason I can’t explain

I know St. Peter won’t call my name

Never an honest word

But that was when I ruled the world….🎶🎤….

Viva la Vida…Cold Play Baby….

This music mix was happening around mid-morning…

Friday. Friday….

I woke up feeling dusty, tired, my neck was aching, I could use a reason for feeling this way but I guess it’s just one of those mornings. You wish you were waking up to find yourself in a stay-cation somewhere. The sounds of birds, the river, the trees and their whispering…but reality check……work awaits darling!!!

So coincidentally, I had put aside my blue pants…so much for feeling blue huh???
I did not even exercise..I should have…Those endorphins would’ve done me good.

Went to the bus…logged into social media( I avoid this in the morning)…but was looking for a pick-me-up I guess…

My phone went off and I logged into the world of Nicholas Spark’s True Believer…still no Sparks!!!

Then I just closed my eyes and extended my sleep…😊👀!

I get to work and do my coffee ( what a miracle worker)…and listen to Ted Talks…(get into this habit)…it’s good for you!!

What did it though apart from a call from a friend and seeing a long lost friend was music. Oh Music…

…🎶…for some reason I can’t explain …🎶…

Soft rock mix!!

“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. …” Bob Marley!!

The magic brought an upbeat to my walk. And my face lit. As I worked I bobbed my head and sang along.

As I write this, I don’t feel bad about my blue pants( blue is my favorite color after all), my mood is light and am not feeling dusty. I might have to do something about my neck but am okay. Am smiling and am shining. And the music playing on radio is just super super amazing.

Thanking God it’s Friday😜!!

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