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Focus…

It’s true of many things in life, that for them to be solid then they must have a very firm foundation. I know this sounds so clichè but it’s something that needs constant emphasis in life. All aspects of life need time to build. Alongside it, there must be patience, trust, hope and faith. Raising kids. Relationships. Jobs. Fitness. Businesses. Etc

In the course of the journey that is life, we always have dreams and aspirations but what we fail at is setting our priorities right. We fail because we loose focus at some point. The journey might be so promising and you love the steps but something happens and the focus is gone. Focus is the basis of many solid foundations…for you to enjoy safety that comes with it.  
We are often distracted. We are faced with stupid temptations and greed and instant gratification that out initial focus is lost. 

It’s Wednesday morning and I’m listening to Elevation worship. And it’s the best way to start a day. Sets a Positive focus😄😜… And I’ve had my morning coffee and my workout so I’m pretty upbeat. The weather has been a mix of suuuuuny, chilly and cloudy the past few days. I can’t say much about the speed of the week…it dragged some, it sprinted some and stood still in some days.  
Talking about focus, my mind is still fixated about somewhere nice and coastal. I think as a therapist you need to take a week off after every two months. 

They say that when you feel that life is overwhelming, you should at every moment you get, do something that will shift your energy. Exercise. Call a friend. Have a cuppa. Eat chocolate. Hike. 
Life sprints. Life drags. Life halts. But we must keep the ultimate individual focus. It depends on where you wanna place yourself. Build a solid foundation on things that will always light your path and lift you up. Don’t give up just when you’re about to sky-rocket. Take a big sip in life. Believe. Be bold. Focus. 
From my own misfortune and failures I’ve learnt to wear them and learn from them. 

It’s Go! Go! Go!
I learnt that forward is the way to go at all times. Regardless of what I face….. I Focus. 
I won’t run away from my problems…..anymore😂 I’ll face the issues and fix them. What I can I’ll do. Where I need help I will ask. 
I won’t be ashamed of my past failures. One step up is good enough. 
I won’t procrastinate. There are two choices in life: to accept situations as they are or to take responsibility of changing them. 
I won’t make excuses when it comes to things that matter. It’s simple. Decide what you want and go for it. Don’t sit empty doing nothing about your situations. If you don’t do anything then it means it’s not that important. Face the facts and realities of life!
People will always have opinions and mostly they’re negative. Learn to sort through. You know what’s best. 
Be grateful. Appreciate what you have and try to make it excellent. 

“We cannot become what we want by becoming what we are!” Max Depree



And so the clients are about to stream in. I am happy at  this moment. Just enjoying the fullness of this day. I have every reason to be upbeat. I am Elevated. I am FOCUSED. 

“Starve your distractions. Feed your focus!”

  

Generosity Pays…

Morning Coffee Recipe:

Brew some coffee

Add some ginger 

Add some cinnamon 

Pour the above in your favorite mug

Sweeten with some honey

Let that aroma fill you up

Now sip slooooooooooowly….

Feel how that first sip fills your soul and elevates your mood…

Enjoy and better yet, make two mugs😜!
Everyday we are generously given twenty four hours to enjoy each moment and to be grateful for being here. How we get to start and live through each day is entirely up to us. 
As I sip on my awesome coffee, I can’t help but smile. It’s a cold day. It’s been generally cold for This month of August. So keeping warm is necessary. These are simple life’s pleasures.. So take time and feel each moment for what it is. 
Oh My!

Life has been sprinting…Literally!!!!

So much to do. So little time. But besides being on the grind, I am always grateful for being here and making a difference. 

There are so many situations that happen that make me appreciate the art of giving and being cheerful about it. This I am going to teach all my children( however many I will be blessed with)

When you give, you find yourself always happy. Well, unless you find those people along the path of life that make you turn into someone you’re not by taking advantage of your kindness over and over. 
It’s such a quiet morning and this is on purpose. I just wanted silence to blog this😜. There are those mornings that you just want comfortable silence around you. Just so you can reflect. 
So…about giving…(before I digress)..

The more good you do for the world, the better life goes. Giving has to come from the heart. You have to Actually care to give. 

Don’t wait to gain something. It’s a man eat man society as it is and people are looking for instant gratification. What’s in it for them is what they chase. This in turn has made relationships of all sorts loose the true meaning. 
There is magic in giving. True giving makes many things just get better and better. You can never lack if you’re a true giver. And if you’re unhappy as a giver then you’re not in alignment with who you are as a person and it’s not because of what anyone else is doing. 

Remember: what people do is because of them, NOT YOU!!

Jim Rohn: Nothing teaches character better than Generosity. 


Practicing generosity trains you to understand that you already have enough. I’m usually not one to ask for what I want or need (it happens when you go and grow in hardship) but it feels good to help others. But I realize that I’m depriving other people the joy that comes from helping others…so I’ll learn to ask🙊!
Sometimes I struggle in so many ways and things ( I’m still a work in progress..you know😊) and so when a kind gesture is thrown my way it can feel uncomfortable at times. I was reminded the other day that I don’t have to match other people’s generosity. It should come from a place of love. We as human beings like to complicate issues. 

Giving has a ripple effect….most people forget this fact. 
You welcome lots of blessings. The more you give the more you find joy in it. Do all the good you can by all means you can, in all ways you can, in all places you can, in all times you can, to all people you can, as long as ever you can. 
You’re going to find people who’re going to just take and take advantage of your generosity and it can make your energy wane. There are these people in life and there is nothing we can do about them. They enjoy being mean. Don’t let that turn you into them. Resist!
So give from a place of love and enjoy it!!!
  
 

Rambling Thoughts…

  
“Thank you Lord. For today. For the Universe. For family. For food. For school. For teachers…….” A. M. E. N.  
Simple. Genuine. Precise. Leaves you Misty eyed. It’s a simple prayer of a seven-year-old boy…..Night after night mostly we sit by his bedside and pray together and I’m always wowed awed and moved. 

While my prayer is much more detailed sometimes it’s coupled with that days worries and burdens and let-downs…and it shouldn’t. But my human self let’s it!!
Sometimes you have to play the cards you’re dealt. Extraordinary Hardships….will always be there!!
Nothing can prepare us for the adversity life can throw at us. 

Day by Day…we all go through so much and we always grow through it. We all have stories that put our lives into perspective. We should not compare and compete. Instead we should learn from these experiences and get inspired. 
Being older means yes, you have learnt a lot through and through but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open to more lessons, insights and growth. 
Not all classrooms have four walls. Lessons in life are from everywhere and everyone. All the darn time. If you’re not keen enough so many things can pass you by. 
The simple prayer from a child can change your perspective and approach to life. 
A simple idea from a 20 year old to a 60 year old can be eye opening. 
A single person can give a life-changing advice to a married person. 
Are we willing to learn and to keep an open mind?
Be resilient. 
Be uncomfortable at times ( paying attention to your emotions for emotions are meant to be felt not suppressed).
Rewrite your story. Be authentic. Share that story. You’ll realize that when you open up you’ll know people for who they are…!
See the world as it is….ha!!
Be your own superhero. 
Be creative. Improvise where you can. 
Focus on what you have. Don’t wait….
Find your purpose…based on your values. 
Have one person to cheer you on. Be with people who make you think. 
Above all leave your burdens to God. He ALWAYS ALWAYS comes through. 
Pray. 
Believe!!!

PS: (23:05:2015….it’s been three years since Papa passed away. It still feels like yesterday. We miss him dearly and we know he is always smiling down on us)

  

To Forgive…

Somewhere along the way…in the journey that is life…on the graph of living, you find that as days present themselves, you can find yourself with so much inspiration or none at all…and not that it’s not really present but we fail to see it. You find that pressure takes over. And we let it!!
So on this particular day, I had my pen and my journal, and all I could do was stare at it, BLANK!! Which was ironic because the reason why I was in that moment was my rambling thoughts…to pour my heart out!!
But I had to focus…
So I managed to calm down my thoughts. You really can’t afford to disconnect from a moment of stillness once you achieve it, you don’t want the chaos in your mind to erupt!! 

I had to keep that calm and pen down something. 
Oooommmmm…
My thoughts brought me to FORGIVENESS. OWNING UP TO MY ACTIONS. LETTING GO AND PEACE….in that order really. 
(I was gaining my rhythm and was starting to feel more Centered)
I recently read that when you find that at some point life isn’t working, you have to look closely to see where you can forgive..Yourself, others, but mostly Yourself. And also to ask God to always forgive you. 
We all find ourselves in messes. I as many, are all victims of unforgiveness and not owning up to our actions.. We find it hard to be honest especially to ourselves. But to have peace, you really have to!!
Holding grudges is easy., But they have very damaging consequences….emotionally!!
We should be as quick to let go as small children are. Their conflict resolution is amazing. They don’t dwell on negativity. They’re quick to handle it there and then and move on. 
We can’t always be happy. That’s a given. But it’s a choice. It’s hard to forgive at times but it’s still achievable…because Peace is way cheaper than unforgiveness. Try to forgive, you don’t have to wait for an apology. If you want to be unhappy, hold onto anger. Don’t forgive. Pile up small issues…..etc
And as cool as you want to be, you are allowed to go thru all the motions. Cry. Wonder. Ask. Seek. 

Not all days are sunny, sometimes thunder is welcome. 
Stay on Purpose. Forgive. Let go. Be light. Give Light. Choose Peace. Be peace. 

  

Growing Older…

The month of May always has mixed emotions. It’s an exciting start as its my birthday and also so many of my friends celebrate their birthdays on this month. So we end up getting high on sugar and laughter and get togethers. So today I will focus on the good that comes with May.

Its exactly half past May…on a Monday…and as am having my lunch and tea, and having gained 4kgs in only 2weeks (ooops)…. I cant help but rejoice in the fact that being older ain’t that baaaad..lol…. even if my son doesn’t want to hear that am getting older…tihihihi.

When you’re surrounded by positive energy and also by beginning to trust your journey and God’s guidance, you can face life head on!

That’s exactly why its good to have a daily journal to jot down some things that you want to gain or have gained with every added day that you experience!

Here is mine:

  • reach new heights
  • be uplifting
  • be patient
  • enjoy the beauty around you
  • create your own music
  • stay active
  • enjoy nature
  • stand your ground
  • be strong
  • know when to slow down
  • if it itches, scratch it
  • live large
  • be clear
  • stay calm
  • be positive
  • make friends
  • reflect
  • be full of life
  • be free-spirited
  • carry your friends when they need it
  • aim at greatness
  • smile….

The list can be longer. The most important thing is to live for now.

As I age, I am Thankful for the journey, the lessons and the wisdom gained.

Cheers to many more!!!!

REMINDER: focus on what you can control in LIFE!!never-too-old

 

What are you Thankful For…?

…..’Cause I’d get a thousand hugs
From ten thousand lightning bugs
As they tried to teach me how to dance
A foxtrot above my head
A sock hop beneath my bed
The disco ball is just hanging by a thread
(Thread, thread…)….

OwlCity was rocking on radio and my Mind had been fixated on my yester-night.

What are you grateful for?

After our bedtime routine of snacking (more for my Son than I…Lol), brushing our teeth and stories….and before our usual prayer, I asked my him what he was thankful for…for that day…

His answer amazed me.

He said:

  • I am thankful for Prayers because he loves to Pray
  • I am thankful for my teacher
  • I am thankful that he was a good boy in school…lol
  • I am thankful for food
  • I am thankful that I played in the swings today….

Notice the simplicity of the things he is grateful for. It humbled me a hundred fold.

OH! How Cute!!!

He asked me what i was Thankful for and for me its a whole lot…

  • For my life
  • For health
  • For motherhood
  • For friendships
  • For food and water
  • For my job
  • For Peace of mind
  • For music like Fireflies which calms your soul….

Then he said, ‘I am thankful for all that too…lol!’

There is something about spending time with a child that humbles you. REALLY!

It’s in the simple moments, simple Simple priceless moments!

What are you Thankful for? REALLY?

However small?

So we bowed down to pray our usual prayer…

“God in Heaven, Hear My Prayer, Keep me in Thy loving Care, Be my guide in all I do and Bless all those who love me too…”

AMEN…..and AMEN!!

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Let’s Be Candid…


Creamy Peanut Butter.

Nutella

Strawberry Jam

Honey ( a MUST have)

Blue Band Margarine or Butter…

These are kids favorite all-time-spreads. Moms in the house will agree with me.
On One extremely Hot Saturday afternoon am doing some minor grocery shopping and as am in the dairy section picking some yoghurt, I see some “all natural Cheese’ Spread..,I get so excited because we love Sunday sandwiches and this was looking like a very good plan…..”yay”… I had my son in mind when I went ahead and purchased it. It was my most yay purchase that day. LOL…
So I get home and it’s the first thing I show him as I was unpacking. He is a very thankful boy. He hugs me and says all the thank you’s and hugs as I expected.
Following day…I make home made patties and use this spread and ketchup…and since he loooooves this meal am so happy..esp because the spread seems to be loved( I was 50/50…maybe the ketchup masked some taste now that I think of it)…mmmmh!
We go ahead with our usual day to day routine. One evening, he tells me he wants a sandwich. So I tell him I will use the cheese spread. Then he said, “mommy, that ‘thing’ is not so tasty…sorry but I don’t want it, it has a funny taste…!” LOL.
I hid my laughter and shock at the same time. Hid my laughter because the honesty was epic and shocked because he did not even try sugarcoat it. LOL

Kids- gotta love em!!
My point in this is HONESTY!!
I really appreciated it. Sometimes we really avoid being told things as they are. We hide and mask situations to avoid being hurt or hurting people.
Or you get to a point when it doesn’t matter at all. As much as it really does…
As they say, “kill them with the truth!”
Let’s be candid…
Am I fat in this dress?

Do these jeans make my butt big?

Do you like the meal I made?

Do my eyebrows give me a surprised look?

Do I have Kale on my teeth?
To be honest, first thing is you always have to trust your gut feeling and have self belief. Secondly, if they hesitate in answering then yeah that dress has added you some inches honey!! But if you feel good go ahead and rock it,,..!!
Don’t comfort people with lies. Tell it as it is so we can move on…
A hungry heart feeds on lies too so be careful. LOL
I still have my jar of cheese, still fresh… which am trying to find a fun way of using it. Any suggestions.. ??
In the meantime, peanut butter sandwich it is!!!

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