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Remembering Papa..

  
Minutes turned into hours, hours into days, days into months, months into years….two to be exact since wings were officially fixed on you and you found your way to heaven and now dancing with the other angels. It’s never easy at all, it never has been and it never will. I wish we are prepped long before when someone leaves just how to live without them. Maybe it will make it easy. 

As we go on day after day, we cherish the memories and enjoy the time God gave us with you. I keep thinking about you even if it pains…..

There are so many things that we need you to see. Words are inadequate…..

Dad….How ironic is it that people waste moments not listening to or paying much attention to people when they are alive?… But when they are not there, We live yearning for those moments? Life is Tricky at times. 

Hard lessons are instilled into us..that you should cherish people who matter in your life. To Find time….Not excuses!!

I want to assure you that in as much as life has it’s twists and turns, we are trying our level best in our èndevours. 

In The curve balls that life throws at us, we put our trust in God and somehow we pull through. 

My consolation is that I always know that you are smiling down on us. 

And as we continue to celebrate your life, we Thank God that He made you for us. 


Dance Papa. Dance. 

  

Growing Older…

The month of May always has mixed emotions. It’s an exciting start as its my birthday and also so many of my friends celebrate their birthdays on this month. So we end up getting high on sugar and laughter and get togethers. So today I will focus on the good that comes with May.

Its exactly half past May…on a Monday…and as am having my lunch and tea, and having gained 4kgs in only 2weeks (ooops)…. I cant help but rejoice in the fact that being older ain’t that baaaad..lol…. even if my son doesn’t want to hear that am getting older…tihihihi.

When you’re surrounded by positive energy and also by beginning to trust your journey and God’s guidance, you can face life head on!

That’s exactly why its good to have a daily journal to jot down some things that you want to gain or have gained with every added day that you experience!

Here is mine:

  • reach new heights
  • be uplifting
  • be patient
  • enjoy the beauty around you
  • create your own music
  • stay active
  • enjoy nature
  • stand your ground
  • be strong
  • know when to slow down
  • if it itches, scratch it
  • live large
  • be clear
  • stay calm
  • be positive
  • make friends
  • reflect
  • be full of life
  • be free-spirited
  • carry your friends when they need it
  • aim at greatness
  • smile….

The list can be longer. The most important thing is to live for now.

As I age, I am Thankful for the journey, the lessons and the wisdom gained.

Cheers to many more!!!!

REMINDER: focus on what you can control in LIFE!!never-too-old

 

Wisdom Galore…

I don’t take for granted all the wisdom and inspiration I get from some of the people I meet in life. While others call you names and talk ill of you, others are there to encourage you and urge you on.

With permission from one of my elderly friends, lemmi talk about why we should not sit and whine…

She is turning 75 very soon and she is as active as a 30 year old. She does what many people won’t do even in their 20’s.

She drives very long distances, she has a beautiful garden with all these wonderful herbs and vegetables (she waters her garden). She does field work as well as office work.

In all the years I have known her, she has broken her back thrice, her ankle, her wrist, shoulder and knee surgeries. (How can one body take all that?). I ask her how she does it. We laugh about it so much. Then recently she was told she had cancer of the stomach, it broke my heart but then after tests and a major surgery to remove part of her stomach, she was told it would not spread….whoop whoop!!!!

All this time, she was doing volunteer canceling at the hospital and also some beautiful embroidery.

When she was discharged she was up and about and back to what she does best….HELPING PEOPLE….CHEERFULLY!!

When she speaks, I listen and listen….
…So I told her she needs to encourage all the young people who give up after they face challenges….She does it (encouragement) so easily. One thing she encouraged me to always do is to PRAY. To Do what I can with the time that I have been given. 🙆
Honestly, she oozes wisdom and just by looking at her you can be challenged to up your game. She always walks fast and when she is walking slowly, she is in quiet mode in prayer.

Lessons learnt:

1. draw my inspiration from people who take time to also value others and themselves.

2: Age is not a limit. You are your own limit.

3: Enjoy what you do!!

4: Friendship is not about age. It’s about those people who tag your heart in a good way.

5: Laughter is indeed medicine. Trust me!!

6: Exercise by reaching out to help those around you.

I am rich in my heart. I look forward to draw wisdom from the experiences I encounter and people I meet and places I go to and from the days as they come.

Stay Wise😎!!

What are you Thankful For…?

…..’Cause I’d get a thousand hugs
From ten thousand lightning bugs
As they tried to teach me how to dance
A foxtrot above my head
A sock hop beneath my bed
The disco ball is just hanging by a thread
(Thread, thread…)….

OwlCity was rocking on radio and my Mind had been fixated on my yester-night.

What are you grateful for?

After our bedtime routine of snacking (more for my Son than I…Lol), brushing our teeth and stories….and before our usual prayer, I asked my him what he was thankful for…for that day…

His answer amazed me.

He said:

  • I am thankful for Prayers because he loves to Pray
  • I am thankful for my teacher
  • I am thankful that he was a good boy in school…lol
  • I am thankful for food
  • I am thankful that I played in the swings today….

Notice the simplicity of the things he is grateful for. It humbled me a hundred fold.

OH! How Cute!!!

He asked me what i was Thankful for and for me its a whole lot…

  • For my life
  • For health
  • For motherhood
  • For friendships
  • For food and water
  • For my job
  • For Peace of mind
  • For music like Fireflies which calms your soul….

Then he said, ‘I am thankful for all that too…lol!’

There is something about spending time with a child that humbles you. REALLY!

It’s in the simple moments, simple Simple priceless moments!

What are you Thankful for? REALLY?

However small?

So we bowed down to pray our usual prayer…

“God in Heaven, Hear My Prayer, Keep me in Thy loving Care, Be my guide in all I do and Bless all those who love me too…”

AMEN…..and AMEN!!

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Quotable Quotes…

Stop being on auto-pilot, Put yourself first, 

Recognize yourself, 

Stop pleasing other people,

or chasing some version of success that doesn’t resonate with you,

No need to numb it out with food, shopping, booze, TV, or other distractions,

Stop being worn down, beat up, stressed out, and completely depleted…. 
Wake Up

Live Intentionally!!! 

 

Quotable Quotes….

Do everything with a mind that lets go. Do not expect any praise or reward.

If you let go a little, you will have a LITTLE Peace.

If you let go a lot, you will have a LOT of peace.

If you let go completely, you will know COMPLETE peace and freedom.

Your struggles with the world will have come to an end….

~Ajahn Chah

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The List….✨

I told myself to pick something random to do. Anything that will help in this journey of authenticity. So I took a book and wrote down three things that I want to carry into the year ahead…

To smile!
To Breathe!
To shake it off!

Reflections of the year gone by are oh so mighty….Oh boy what a year!!!It feels like a blink of an eye. Working too hard. So much to do. So little time. Too many emotions. Too many changes. Leaps. Dips. Bounds. The works… An attitude of gratitude and thanksgiving for the year that has been is all I have….WHOA!!!

SMILE:Smiling moments have been many. But the moment that crowns it all is smiling because God has got my back no matter what. And many many tiny wow (in a good way) moments…engraved in my heart!!

BREATH: It’s inevitable at times…to find yourself holding your breath because you allow yourself to be consumed in what the tough and rough times offer….as it’s human and universal…take time and breath…just whoosa as much as you can. Through Disappointments…breathe! Through Expectations…breathe! Anger…..breath! Tiredness….breath!!

SHAKE IT OFF:You ever found yourself in a situation where so much is expected of you and you give it your all and somehow it’s never enough? Yeah, I know you know what am talking about…well, honey, don’t stress…just SHAKE IT OFF!! There is only so much we can possibly do. Situations, people, some days will always want more from you. Don’t kill yourself trying to fit in.SHAKE IT …….OOOF!!!

So I sat and looked at my list and thought how simple yet at times hard to do these things. Really!!! But I will carry this through.

As a human, given a plain white piece of paper with a single black dot placed randomly within the paper…we tend to focus on the black dot missing out on all the white and we just end up feeling stuck up, bitter…etc…

But life is an adventure….the real adventure is the life we share with the people we have along the way. The adventure of a lifetime is always right in front of us….it’s cleverly disguised as a familiar face.

There is always a million pick me ups along the journey. Let’s focus on the white. The positive vibes. The familiar faces that care. The moments that make your heart smile. Let the hard times shape and STRENGTHEN you, don’t let them bring you down.

SO SMILE. BREATHE. SHAKE IT OFF!!!

A brand new year AWAITS!!

WhoopWhoop😜!!

Scattered Thoughts (being Human)..


I was sulking and I did not quite realize…..as usual my thoughts were scattered….so many things to think about..

Is it even remotely possible to run from your own thoughts sometimes?.,

Maybe I just needed a holiday or my choice of music wasn’t quite up-beat. Nonetheless I needed to scribble something down…that itch that needs to be scratched..

It’s okay to feel unmotivated sometimes. We cannot have it all together….no one has it all together….and this is a FACT!!

There are times when you try to focus on something but no-matter how hard you try, if you’re not motivated it can’t happen the way you want it.

How many times do you start to write or read or plan to cook a meal from a recipe you saw on All-Recipe and halfway thru you feel so done..? A disconnect somehow happens..

Motivation somehow has a way of escaping us. True or false!?

Then at times it’s killed by obstacles that present themselves when they are least expected.

Last Sunday I wanted to bake cinnamon banana loaf. I was so ready. After church and feeling so light.. Blessed and hunger driven…I went ahead and added some things from the shop that I needed for the bake..
I got home and a black out decided to happen. I grrrrr-Ed, whoosa-ad, ate my lunch and dozed off…with my baking motivation killed…… but at least I had a long nap…

This is what I was telling you when I told you earlier that my thoughts were scattered….

My thoughts were on holiday. Motivation. Banana loaves. Soaking up the sun. Sunday naps. Blessings. Hunger…(.it’s a long list😂😂)!

All in all. I love that am human enough to know that I cannot have it all together. I work towards it, but marvel in the lessons I learn from the obstacles that life presents. It’s with overcoming these obstacles that I have managed to continually gain strength as I journey on in life.

Let’s human😂😂😊!!

Let’s Be Candid…


Creamy Peanut Butter.

Nutella

Strawberry Jam

Honey ( a MUST have)

Blue Band Margarine or Butter…

These are kids favorite all-time-spreads. Moms in the house will agree with me.
On One extremely Hot Saturday afternoon am doing some minor grocery shopping and as am in the dairy section picking some yoghurt, I see some “all natural Cheese’ Spread..,I get so excited because we love Sunday sandwiches and this was looking like a very good plan…..”yay”… I had my son in mind when I went ahead and purchased it. It was my most yay purchase that day. LOL…
So I get home and it’s the first thing I show him as I was unpacking. He is a very thankful boy. He hugs me and says all the thank you’s and hugs as I expected.
Following day…I make home made patties and use this spread and ketchup…and since he loooooves this meal am so happy..esp because the spread seems to be loved( I was 50/50…maybe the ketchup masked some taste now that I think of it)…mmmmh!
We go ahead with our usual day to day routine. One evening, he tells me he wants a sandwich. So I tell him I will use the cheese spread. Then he said, “mommy, that ‘thing’ is not so tasty…sorry but I don’t want it, it has a funny taste…!” LOL.
I hid my laughter and shock at the same time. Hid my laughter because the honesty was epic and shocked because he did not even try sugarcoat it. LOL

Kids- gotta love em!!
My point in this is HONESTY!!
I really appreciated it. Sometimes we really avoid being told things as they are. We hide and mask situations to avoid being hurt or hurting people.
Or you get to a point when it doesn’t matter at all. As much as it really does…
As they say, “kill them with the truth!”
Let’s be candid…
Am I fat in this dress?

Do these jeans make my butt big?

Do you like the meal I made?

Do my eyebrows give me a surprised look?

Do I have Kale on my teeth?
To be honest, first thing is you always have to trust your gut feeling and have self belief. Secondly, if they hesitate in answering then yeah that dress has added you some inches honey!! But if you feel good go ahead and rock it,,..!!
Don’t comfort people with lies. Tell it as it is so we can move on…
A hungry heart feeds on lies too so be careful. LOL
I still have my jar of cheese, still fresh… which am trying to find a fun way of using it. Any suggestions.. ??
In the meantime, peanut butter sandwich it is!!!

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