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Wisdom Galore…

I don’t take for granted all the wisdom and inspiration I get from some of the people I meet in life. While others call you names and talk ill of you, others are there to encourage you and urge you on.

With permission from one of my elderly friends, lemmi talk about why we should not sit and whine…

She is turning 75 very soon and she is as active as a 30 year old. She does what many people won’t do even in their 20’s.

She drives very long distances, she has a beautiful garden with all these wonderful herbs and vegetables (she waters her garden). She does field work as well as office work.

In all the years I have known her, she has broken her back thrice, her ankle, her wrist, shoulder and knee surgeries. (How can one body take all that?). I ask her how she does it. We laugh about it so much. Then recently she was told she had cancer of the stomach, it broke my heart but then after tests and a major surgery to remove part of her stomach, she was told it would not spread….whoop whoop!!!!

All this time, she was doing volunteer canceling at the hospital and also some beautiful embroidery.

When she was discharged she was up and about and back to what she does best….HELPING PEOPLE….CHEERFULLY!!

When she speaks, I listen and listen….
…So I told her she needs to encourage all the young people who give up after they face challenges….She does it (encouragement) so easily. One thing she encouraged me to always do is to PRAY. To Do what I can with the time that I have been given. 🙆
Honestly, she oozes wisdom and just by looking at her you can be challenged to up your game. She always walks fast and when she is walking slowly, she is in quiet mode in prayer.

Lessons learnt:

1. draw my inspiration from people who take time to also value others and themselves.

2: Age is not a limit. You are your own limit.

3: Enjoy what you do!!

4: Friendship is not about age. It’s about those people who tag your heart in a good way.

5: Laughter is indeed medicine. Trust me!!

6: Exercise by reaching out to help those around you.

I am rich in my heart. I look forward to draw wisdom from the experiences I encounter and people I meet and places I go to and from the days as they come.

Stay Wise😎!!

Dear Diary (Part One)..

It’s always good to write down stuff as it’s a form of therapy. So I went ahead and looked up some of my entries of last year. Writing is indeed awesome. Try it. Thank me later.
Simple things in Life with Immense positive effects…


20/06/2016:
“Faced with awkward moments can stir you up in the wrong way…it can linger if you allow it…”

I wonder what was happening. But it was a cold day. Evidently, I did not let it freeze me or my thoughts. I warmed it up….warm Thoughts, a book and a Mocha…oh Yum!!!


23/06/2016
: I know that if I try to take on much, I can find a way to make excuses…so I make my daily goals Tiny..

Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the Bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it…
What a day that way huh!!?


25/06/2016:
Keep Learning and expanding. Life is a continuous learning experience. Take time to embrace the Surroundings. Be Thankful for what you have!!

Basically I was reminding myself of the simplicity of life (if we make it simple that is) and just being Thankful for life.

23/10/2016: Wow, I must have been writing  elsewhere. Lol  This Was quite a break!!

I quoted C. S. Lewis, “Friendship is necessary, Like Philosophy…like Art…it has no survival Value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival…..I hear you Lewis!!!

25/10/2016: Practice the art of being all there: give your time, touch, pat on the shoulder…be all there: give! give! give! Make effort!!!!

Uh huh…this was a heart to heart with myself. But basically, in the day to day living and interactions with people who matter you have to be all there!!


26/10/2016
: Hebrews 13:5 “Never will I leave you, Never will I forsake You!”

How often do you write? Does it work for you?
It should!!! Really❗️

Lemmi just add a quote, “everything of Value has a Foundation!”

Music Heals….

…….”🎶…I hear Jerusalem bells a-ringing

Roman cavalry choirs are singing

Be my mirror, my sword and shield

My missionaries in a foreign field

For some reason I can’t explain

I know St. Peter won’t call my name

Never an honest word

But that was when I ruled the world….🎶🎤….

Viva la Vida…Cold Play Baby….

This music mix was happening around mid-morning…

Friday. Friday….

I woke up feeling dusty, tired, my neck was aching, I could use a reason for feeling this way but I guess it’s just one of those mornings. You wish you were waking up to find yourself in a stay-cation somewhere. The sounds of birds, the river, the trees and their whispering…but reality check……work awaits darling!!!

So coincidentally, I had put aside my blue pants…so much for feeling blue huh???
I did not even exercise..I should have…Those endorphins would’ve done me good.

Went to the bus…logged into social media( I avoid this in the morning)…but was looking for a pick-me-up I guess…

My phone went off and I logged into the world of Nicholas Spark’s True Believer…still no Sparks!!!

Then I just closed my eyes and extended my sleep…😊👀!

I get to work and do my coffee ( what a miracle worker)…and listen to Ted Talks…(get into this habit)…it’s good for you!!

What did it though apart from a call from a friend and seeing a long lost friend was music. Oh Music…

…🎶…for some reason I can’t explain …🎶…

Soft rock mix!!

“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. …” Bob Marley!!

The magic brought an upbeat to my walk. And my face lit. As I worked I bobbed my head and sang along.

As I write this, I don’t feel bad about my blue pants( blue is my favorite color after all), my mood is light and am not feeling dusty. I might have to do something about my neck but am okay. Am smiling and am shining. And the music playing on radio is just super super amazing.

Thanking God it’s Friday😜!!

Let’s Be Candid…


Creamy Peanut Butter.

Nutella

Strawberry Jam

Honey ( a MUST have)

Blue Band Margarine or Butter…

These are kids favorite all-time-spreads. Moms in the house will agree with me.
On One extremely Hot Saturday afternoon am doing some minor grocery shopping and as am in the dairy section picking some yoghurt, I see some “all natural Cheese’ Spread..,I get so excited because we love Sunday sandwiches and this was looking like a very good plan…..”yay”… I had my son in mind when I went ahead and purchased it. It was my most yay purchase that day. LOL…
So I get home and it’s the first thing I show him as I was unpacking. He is a very thankful boy. He hugs me and says all the thank you’s and hugs as I expected.
Following day…I make home made patties and use this spread and ketchup…and since he loooooves this meal am so happy..esp because the spread seems to be loved( I was 50/50…maybe the ketchup masked some taste now that I think of it)…mmmmh!
We go ahead with our usual day to day routine. One evening, he tells me he wants a sandwich. So I tell him I will use the cheese spread. Then he said, “mommy, that ‘thing’ is not so tasty…sorry but I don’t want it, it has a funny taste…!” LOL.
I hid my laughter and shock at the same time. Hid my laughter because the honesty was epic and shocked because he did not even try sugarcoat it. LOL

Kids- gotta love em!!
My point in this is HONESTY!!
I really appreciated it. Sometimes we really avoid being told things as they are. We hide and mask situations to avoid being hurt or hurting people.
Or you get to a point when it doesn’t matter at all. As much as it really does…
As they say, “kill them with the truth!”
Let’s be candid…
Am I fat in this dress?

Do these jeans make my butt big?

Do you like the meal I made?

Do my eyebrows give me a surprised look?

Do I have Kale on my teeth?
To be honest, first thing is you always have to trust your gut feeling and have self belief. Secondly, if they hesitate in answering then yeah that dress has added you some inches honey!! But if you feel good go ahead and rock it,,..!!
Don’t comfort people with lies. Tell it as it is so we can move on…
A hungry heart feeds on lies too so be careful. LOL
I still have my jar of cheese, still fresh… which am trying to find a fun way of using it. Any suggestions.. ??
In the meantime, peanut butter sandwich it is!!!

Why Worry…?


Alive✔️

Healthy✔️

Blessed✔️

When we have this order in life, then why complain? There are so many other entries to key things to add to the above check list but these are the ones that top the list. Though all of them collectively equal to BLESSED!!!

Yesterday my son and I went to the supermarket to get a gift to our good friend. So we paid and went ahead to have our special gift wrapped. So we find this talkative guy who greeted us and the next thing that he said shocked me!!

Him: instead of wrapping gifts I should be finishing my degree…
Me: (touched and uttering a silent prayer) oh..
Him: it’s true, my friends are busy studying and here I am…. Doing long hours and poor working conditions…
Me: What about life!?
Him: (shocked)
Me: at least you’re doing something noble and saving up. There are some who are in a morgue right?
Him:true madam. I hadn’t thought about that really. I guess I should just be thankful huh?
Me: now that’s the spirit!! We human focus on what is going wrong in our life instead of the obvious positive that we have daily.
So he engaged my son and they team worked into wrapping the gift together. So I told him to keep his dream alive….(that of going back to campus)…
That’s the way of life. As hard as it is…the best thing to do is to learn contentment in our lives. Be thankful for what we have.

I got this:

“Most of what worries us today has absolutely nothing to do with today. – If you worry too much about what might be or what might have been, you will ignore and totally miss what is. Worry is the greatest opposition to the present moment. It does nothing but steal your joy and keep you incredibly busy doing absolutely nothing worthwhile at all….!”
So we thanked each other as I also learnt something from him. He told my son, “always strive to help out your mama okay young man?…now help your mama carry this gift and have fun at the party!!”

How cool is that???

Alive? Healthy? Blessed?? Say thank You!!

So many lessons but are we learning????

Are You Listening…?

 

Listen. Acknowledge. Solve. Thank. 

I am having so many things going through my mind at the moment. It’s a mixture of many things. The list above is of things that we strive to do daily. But am beginning to think that we really take them for granted.

How many of Us really take time to Listen?

Talking is okay. Being listened to is also okay. But being TRULLY heard is the it. Then that way you feel acknowledged and it’s easy to solve the issues at hand and then gratitude becomes so automatic. In the hugs. The smiles. The silent prayers. The pat on the back. 

Many of us wanna talk, but is our audience listening?

Really listening?

And for me to hear what you have to say it has to be oozing positive vibes only. We are so easy to listen to criticism and negative vibes( me included) about us and other people that makes it really sad. And being an all round world we don’t except perfection…

Take time to really listen. But strive to be TRULLY heard as you also hear someone out…

So I am going to sip on my coffee on this rather cool day and hope to be that person that really listens and hears. So why won’t you folks…?

Ps: In an age of Distraction, nothing can Feel more Luxurious than Paying Attention!!!



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